So often, my first client interaction starts with, “I need someone who understands my culture and background.“ Early in my career, it became very clear that there was a need in the mental health field. Too often, there is a mismatch between clients and clinicians that leaves clients feeling as though they constantly have to explain their culture to be understood in session.
For some clients, who are already carrying the stress of family responsibilities and expectations, having to explain the cultural context behind family dynamics, religious practices, or traditional values can unintentionally disrupt the therapeutic relationship.
In my experience, what may be viewed as “poor boundaries with family” are often expressions of love, care, loyalty, and responsibility. I have seen clients balance family expectations, cultural values, career demands, and personal goals while making it look “easy” from the outside. Yet many do not know these individuals are carrying an immense amount of responsibility, pressure, and emotional labor.
When clients spend a significant portion of therapy explaining their cultural values, rather than exploring their experiences, it can take away from the healing process. For someone who is already carrying so much, this disconnect can become an added mental load in a space where they should feel seen, heard, and valued.
Culture Shapes How We Experience Mental Health
Culture influences how we experience and express emotions. It shapes our beliefs about mental health, family, relationships, success, lifestyle, and self-worth, to name a few. Our cultural backgrounds also influence how we navigate stress, anxiety, depression, grief, and trauma. The values and messages we receive throughout our lives affect how we seek support, cope with challenges, and make sense of difficult experiences. Because culture is woven into so many aspects of our lives, it is central in the therapeutic process.
What Does a Culturally Attuned Therapist Do?
You do not need a therapist who shares your exact background. What matters most is finding someone who is willing to approach your experiences with curiosity, respect, and humility.
A culturally attuned therapist understands that culture informs identity. They consider systemic and historical influences, respect the importance of faith, family, and community, and value collaboration throughout the therapeutic process.
In my work, I believe culture is not something that exists separately from healing—it is part of healing. The same way culture shapes who you are, it should also be reflected in your care, interventions, and coping strategies. My goal is to help clients find approaches to healing that feel meaningful, sustainable, and aligned with their values.
Final Thoughts
Therapy is meant to be a space where you can focus on yourself, your growth, and your healing. Finding a therapist who respects and understands your cultural context helps build the trust necessary for meaningful therapeutic work. Sustainable healing happens when care honors the whole person, including the cultural values, experiences, and identities that shape their lives.